Remembering Firsts, Missing Lasts

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We talk a lot about the firsts in our lives – first loves, first jobs, our babies' first steps and first words. Firsts are noted and momentous – photos taken, dates recorded. Firsts are the exciting beginning of whatever comes next – the first day of school offers the possibility of  good grades, new friends and new opportunities. The first date…well, that’s the ultimate first … [Read more...]

Don’t Zen Me In

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The Zen philosophy of life is to live in the moment. Don't look behind you, don't look ahead - just exist in the now, this very minute, where you stand, sit or tumble. Live as if today was the last day of your life. Live life to the fullest and never let yourself fall into the trap of "what if" or "maybe someday." This doesn't work for me. … [Read more...]

The Night I Became a Teenager – the Beatles and Saturday Night Live

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In the fall of 1975 I went to a birthday party.  It was a time when we were quite impressed with ourselves, my friends and I. We had the right clothes - overalls and carpenter pants, Frye boots and Huck-a-Poo shirts, and we were, for the most part, unsupervised most of the time, free to smoke cigarettes and pot and drink cheap beer. We were so young, but, due to our proximity … [Read more...]

What Defines Success?

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Amy Chua, the author of the book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother and her husband, Jed Rubenfeld, wrote an op-ed piece in the New York Times on Sunday, January 26 titled "What Drives Success?"  The core of the article focuses on how some racial and ethnic groups in the United States are more driven to succeed  than others because of the authors' theory of (and new book about) … [Read more...]