9 Reasons My Marriage Shouldn’t Work – and One Reason it Does

  Last month, my husband and I celebrated the 26th anniversary of the day we met. By celebrate I mean we completely forgot about it. Since we've known each other for 26 years,  I've known him  for more of my life than I haven't. It didn’t take long after we met for us to decide that our relationship was going to go beyond the first few dates. Partly it had to do with … [Read more...]

Why the Opinions of Others Don’t Matter

friends, family, husband, life, friendship, midlife, midlife women, getting older

One of the greatest things about being older (ish) is not much caring anymore about what other people think about me. I don't mean my husband or my kids, or especially my mother - I still need her approval more than anyone's, and I'm ok with that - I mean the rest of the world. I mean the snotty salesgirl at the exclusive department store, the disinterested and distracted … [Read more...]

I Was a Stay-at-Home Mom – and my Marriage Survived

I Was a Stay-at-Home Mom

  I was a stay-at-home mom for twenty years. My husband worked to support our family. We chose for me to be a - for lack of a better word - homemaker. I did all of the things needed to run a household, from buying socks to paying bills.  I cooked healthy meals, carpooled, cleaned and organized, volunteered, and built a strong network of friends and acquaintances in … [Read more...]

How – and Why – I Met My Husband

first date, meeting the love of your life, finding love, beshert, getting married, dating, midlife, empty-nest, baby boomer

  Meeting the love of your life - first, second, third or more - is  a  memorable and important day for most of us.  I look back on the day I met my husband and feel two things most of all - grateful and lucky. Because what I believe about the love of your life is this - it's all about timing. I am convinced that, especially for men, the most important thing about making a … [Read more...]

The Stories We Tell -or- How I Met my Husband

life stories, our lives in stories, how we tell our life stories, sharing our life stories, personal history, gps system , midlife, empty nest, baby boomer

What narrative do you have about your life? I don't mean the voice in your head that speaks to you about things you'd rather not hear, like "get your butt to the gym," or "you need to call your mother."I'm talking about the narrative you share with others, the stories you tell to define yourself to the world. We all have those stories - the ones that never change, that we can … [Read more...]