Tag Archive: marriage

9 Reasons My Marriage Shouldn’t Work – and One Reason it Does

  Last month, my husband and I celebrated the 26th anniversary of the day we met. By celebrate I mean we completely forgot about it. Since we’ve known each other for 26 years,  I’ve known him  for more of my life than I haven’t. It didn’t take long after we met for us to decide…

Why Housework Matters

An op-ed piece in the Sunday, December 8, 2013 edition of The New York Times entitled “The Case for Living in Filth”  about the role men and women play in the management of the home is most certainly going to be the trigger for many discussions among groups of women and married or cohabiting couples….

Male Midlife Crisis – What I Learned From My Father

When I was 19 years old, my father and mother separated for good, after years of going back and forth, trying to make their marriage work. Having married at the tender ages of 20 and just 21, a week after graduating from college, it’s not all that surprising that their relationship couldn’t be sustained for…

Why Marriage is For Me

If you read blogs or go on Facebook or even watch the news, you’ve probably heard about the post written by Seth Adam Smith, Marriage Isn’t For You. In the post, Mr. Smith writes thoughtfully and sincerely about his brief  (1 1/2 years) marriage and the advice his father gave him about what marriage is for:…

“What Not to Wear”- the Husband Edition

Being empty-nesters, there’s often a lot of free time on the weekends. Sometimes my husband and I get a little lazy about doing anything that involves more than walking the dog, reading the paper or changing the channel, but every so often one of us will feel inspired to want to do something a little…

I Was a Stay-at-Home Mom – and my Marriage Survived

I was a stay-at-home mom for twenty years. My husband worked to support our family. We chose for me to be a – for lack of a better word – homemaker. I did all of the things needed to run a household, from buying socks to paying bills.  I cooked healthy meals, carpooled, cleaned and…

The Stories We Tell -or- How I Met my Husband

What narrative do you have about your life? I don’t mean the voice in your head that speaks to you about things you’d rather not hear, like “get your butt to the gym,” or “you need to call your mother.”I’m talking about the narrative you share with others, the stories you tell to define yourself to…

Marriage – Come Rain or Come Shine

It was a wonderful wedding. For my husband and me, it was a milestone, as we watched the first of our friends marry off their daughter, a young woman we have known since she was 9 years old. Now twenty-four, she was as beautiful and confident as a bride could be, crazy about  her groom,…

Would you take a do-over in life?

It’s a seductive and provocative idea – a do-over in life. Remember when you were a kid, and you were playing hopscotch or kickball, and your turn just didn’t go well? You’d call out “do-over,” and just like that you would get a second chance. Imagine if you could do that in life – if…

A Child of Divorce – at 49

A few weeks ago I went to a bridal shower for my mother. At seventy-something, she is remarrying after nearly 30 years of being single. Her fiance is a loving and warm man whom our family has welcomed with open arms, and who has brought so much to my mother’s life. To see them together…