On the Occasion of My 25th Wedding Anniversary

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I'm a terrible joke teller, but there's one I think is pretty funny that goes something like this: I've been married for 25 years. It's been the happiest 6 months of my life. Like most good jokes, there's a little bit of truth to that statement. Much of marriage isn't simply about being happy,  just like after the age of, oh, about 11, much of life isn't simply about being … [Read more...]

The ABCs of Empty Nesting

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The college kids are heading back to their messy apartments or moving for the first time into their dorm rooms. So how are you feeling, parents? Will you miss those kids? Other than when our children are born, there's no bigger change in our lives as parents than when our children leave home. It's a shock to the system - but there are good things about empty nesting, … [Read more...]

Searching for the New in an Empty Nest

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This is the first year I will not have any children starting school since 1992. The memory of dropping off my daughter for her first day of pre-school, my 3 month old baby boy in my arms, is so vivid. Everything in my life was brand new - my children, my home, my marriage, my minivan, my friends. There was so much to wonder about and plan for the future. Raising children … [Read more...]

Open a New Door – To Italy

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After 25 years of marriage my husband and I finally went on our dream vacation - 2 weeks in Italy. We had never been on a long trip like this, and I had only been to England once, with a 12-hour visit to Paris, so this was a really big deal for me. Never a great traveler, I worried if I would survive the long plane flights (I did), if I would be able to adjust to the time … [Read more...]

Being Comfortable with the Quiet of an Empty Nest

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One of the most challenging things when your kids leave home is being comfortable with the quiet of an empty nest. Despite a fundamentally good marriage, there are hours...days...sometimes longer when my husband and I don't have much to say to each other. It's not that he's not interesting - and it's certainly not that I'm not fascinating - it's just that some days we run out … [Read more...]