Tag Archive: marriage

On the Occasion of My 25th Wedding Anniversary

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I’m a terrible joke teller, but there’s one I think is pretty funny that goes something like this: I’ve been married for 25 years. It’s been the happiest 6 months of my life. Like most good jokes, there’s a little bit of truth to that statement. Much of marriage isn’t simply about being happy,  just like after…

The ABCs of Empty Nesting

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The college kids are heading back to their messy apartments or moving for the first time into their dorm rooms. So how are you feeling, parents? Will you miss those kids? Other than when our children are born, there’s no bigger change in our lives as parents than when our children leave home. It’s a shock to the system – but there…

Searching for the New in an Empty Nest

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This is the first year I will not have any children starting school since 1992. The memory of dropping off my daughter for her first day of pre-school, my 3 month old baby boy in my arms, is so vivid. Everything in my life was brand new – my children, my home, my marriage, my minivan, my…

Open a New Door – To Italy

After 25 years of marriage my husband and I finally went on our dream vacation – 2 weeks in Italy. We had never been on a long trip like this, and I had only been to England once, with a 12-hour visit to Paris, so this was a really big deal for me. Never a…

Being Comfortable with the Quiet of an Empty Nest

One of the most challenging things when your kids leave home is being comfortable with the quiet of an empty nest. Despite a fundamentally good marriage, there are hours…days…sometimes longer when my husband and I don’t have much to say to each other. It’s not that he’s not interesting – and it’s certainly not that I’m…

9 Reasons My Marriage Shouldn’t Work – and One Reason it Does

  Last month, my husband and I celebrated the 26th anniversary of the day we met. By celebrate I mean we completely forgot about it. Since we’ve known each other for 26 years,  I’ve known him  for more of my life than I haven’t. It didn’t take long after we met for us to decide…

Why Housework Matters

An op-ed piece in the Sunday, December 8, 2013 edition of The New York Times entitled “The Case for Living in Filth”  about the role men and women play in the management of the home is most certainly going to be the trigger for many discussions among groups of women and married or cohabiting couples….

Male Midlife Crisis – What I Learned From My Father

When I was 19 years old, my father and mother separated for good, after years of going back and forth, trying to make their marriage work. Having married at the tender ages of 20 and just 21, a week after graduating from college, it’s not all that surprising that their relationship couldn’t be sustained for…

Why Marriage is For Me

If you read blogs or go on Facebook or even watch the news, you’ve probably heard about the post written by Seth Adam Smith, Marriage Isn’t For You. In the post, Mr. Smith writes thoughtfully and sincerely about his brief  (1 1/2 years) marriage and the advice his father gave him about what marriage is for:…

“What Not to Wear”- the Husband Edition

Being empty-nesters, there’s often a lot of free time on the weekends. Sometimes my husband and I get a little lazy about doing anything that involves more than walking the dog, reading the paper or changing the channel, but every so often one of us will feel inspired to want to do something a little…