36 Questions for Long Married Couples

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If you read the New York Times "Modern Love" column, you probably read the one a few weeks ago about the woman who, upon meeting up with a man she was dating, proceeded to ask and answer 36 questions that made them fall in love. Such a romantic yet scientific way to find a relationship - but what about those of us who have been married for, well, forever? What questions do … [Read more...]

Insomnia at Midlife – When the Mind Is At Its Sharpest

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A hot (no pun intended) topic among my midlife friends is insomnia, which goes hand-in-hand with hot flashes, headaches, irritability, weight gain, and so many other symptoms that come and go as we sometimes blindly find our way through the haze of perimenopause and menopause. Insomnia is the most disruptive of all the symptoms, it seems. A conversation with some of my … [Read more...]

Remembering Firsts, Missing Lasts

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We talk a lot about the firsts in our lives – first loves, first jobs, our babies' first steps and first words. Firsts are noted and momentous – photos taken, dates recorded. Firsts are the exciting beginning of whatever comes next – the first day of school offers the possibility of  good grades, new friends and new opportunities. The first date…well, that’s the ultimate first … [Read more...]

Don’t Zen Me In

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The Zen philosophy of life is to live in the moment. Don't look behind you, don't look ahead - just exist in the now, this very minute, where you stand, sit or tumble. Live as if today was the last day of your life. Live life to the fullest and never let yourself fall into the trap of "what if" or "maybe someday." This doesn't work for me. … [Read more...]