When I was raising my kids, at the end of the last century, there was a lot of chatter in my life. Right before the explosion of the internet, texting, and email, so much of my time was spent talking to other people. If I wanted to order something from the Nordstrom catalog, I had to pick up the phone and call someone. If I had a question for one of my children's teachers, I … [Read more...]
Invisible But Not Unseen at Midlife
Any discussion of middle age women is incomplete without touching on the fact - not the feeling, the concept, or the belief - but the fact that at some point in our lives, we become invisible to the world. As our youth disappears, these things may happen: our boobs droop and our hair thins, our faces wrinkle, our backs hurt and our waists disappear, our glasses become … [Read more...]
Why Every Woman Needs Friends
For women, friendships with other women are as important and life-sustaining — if not more so — than relationships with men. From the beginning of our socialization, we are focused on finding other females to bond with in significant and ego-affirming ways. Who among us didn’t have a best friend at some point or another in our childhoods, the one girl we could always count on … [Read more...]
The Search for Satisfaction
My fellow blogger and writer Jen Mann recently wrote about her midlife crisis and the need to talk about her generalized sadness and dissatisfaction with where she is at this point. Coming from someone who is a humor writer with a huge following and many published books, I am sure that her revelation that she is in need of more - more success, more passion, more excitement, … [Read more...]
I Don’t Need Kondo-ing
As much as I appreciate her tidying and thanking and being genuinely nice and kind, I could only watch 15 minutes of the first episode of Marie Kondo's runaway hit show. You see, I don't need Marie Kondo. It's not that I don't get the value in what she does - though the thanking part does seem a bit much to me - it's just that I have been Kondo-ing all my life. I didn't … [Read more...]